Everything in balance

  Understanding Your Mindset It’s essential to recognize that thoughts shape our feelings and behaviors. If you’re struggling with the thought “I am not good enough,” you’re likely experiencing low self-esteem. This mindset can create a cycle of negative self-talk and feelings, which can affect multiple areas of your life. Challenge Negative Beliefs 1.           Identify the Thought :            We have to learn to be much more self-aware . We carefully watch our words at work, church, school, and in other social settings—but we rarely pay attention to our own self-talk .                It’s true: we are often our own worst critics. The problem is that many of those self-critical                        thoughts aren’t truly ours . They come from trauma, repeated criticism, or being r...

  The Power of Calm in the Face of Negativity Ai Generated photo Negative people are everywhere—at work, online, in families, and sometimes even within our closest circles. While we can’t always control their behavior, we can control how we respond. Remaining calm, being deliberate, and thinking through our reactions are powerful tools that protect our peace and reflect our character. Calm is not weakness; it is strength. When someone approaches us with anger, criticism, or passive-aggressive comments, the natural instinct is to react immediately. However, reacting emotionally often gives negativity more power. Calmness creates space between what is said and how we respond.  In that space, we regain control of ourselves. A calm response can de-escalate tension, prevent unnecessary conflict, and keep us grounded in who we are. It give US the power to choose our own emotions not just let a random reaction cause trouble.  Deliberate responses lead to better outcomes. B...

 The holiday season, while filled with celebration and connection, often brings a surprising amount of pressure. Between family expectations, financial demands, and the rush to “make everything perfect,” stress can build quickly. Fortunately, there are simple and intentional ways to reclaim calm during this busy time. Photo by Octavian Iordache on Unsplash One powerful strategy is setting boundaries . Holidays tend to blur personal limits—saying yes to every event, every request, and every responsibility. Choosing what truly matters and letting go of the rest can create space to breathe. Whether that means declining an invitation, limiting spending, or carving out quiet time, boundaries help protect both energy and emotional well-being. Another way to destress is by embracing small rituals of self-care . These don’t need to be elaborate: a warm cup of tea before bed, a morning walk in cold air, a few minutes of journaling, or playing a favorite holiday playlist. Consistent micro-...

 ⚖️ Are Judges Trained to Deal with Mental Illness? Spoiler: No they are NOT! And that’s a problem                                                   Photo by Tingey Injury Law Firm on Unsplash Decarlos Brown Jr., 34, who was arrested on Aug. 22 after he fatally stabbed 23-year-old Iryna Zarutska. (abc.com)  The suspect, 34-year-old Decarlos Brown  had been diagnosed with schizophrenia and suffered hallucinations and paranoia, his sister Tracey Brown said. She said her brother told her multiple times the government had implanted a chip in him. (cnn.com)  What is justice in this case? Death penalty? life in prison? Life in a Hospital for the criminally insane?  The history of this man is woven with chances to protect society and get him help but time and time again the system failed to do both or did it fail? Failure, in this case means you ...

  Understanding ADHD and Trauma Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder characterized by symptoms of inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsiveness. Adults with ADHD may struggle with time management, organization, maintaining focus, hyper-awareness, and a sense of being overwhelmed. Trauma can stem from various experiences such as emotional, physical, or sexual abuse in childhood, being the victim or witnessing violence, sudden loss, or even long-term exposure to chronic stressors such as poverty. Trauma can significantly impact how an individual manages their ADHD symptoms. For individuals navigating ADHD while experiencing the effects of past trauma, it can complicate daily life. Trauma can exacerbate ADHD symptoms, leading to increased unstable emotional responses to simple daily interactions.  Trauma and ADHD can trigger anxiety, depression, and emotional regulation challenges. Conversely, ADHD can worsen trauma triggers by ...

  Balancing Political Fear and Emotions What is Political Fear? Political fear is a psychological response to perceived threats related to political systems, leaders, or events.  It can manifest as anxiety, stress, or a sense of helplessness, often intensified during election seasons, post-election political upheavals, or societal changes. Many people in the USA right now are particularly sensitive to the changing political dynamics as they navigate their roles in family, work, and civic life. No matter what your political viewpoint is, there are a lot of changes happening, and this can cause fear and mental disruption.   Use this simple guide to help bring your mind into balance and bring positive mental health focus.  1. Identify Your Triggers Self-awareness :  Recognize what “specific” political issues or events trigger feelings of fear or anxiety. This might include reading headlines or watching news coverage,  scrolling  social ...

                                                                        Photo by Abyan Athif on Unsplash   Positive Focus: in a Negative World   Introduction In our fast-paced and often stressful lives, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by negativity and challenges. A positive focus involves shifting our attention to the positive aspects of our experiences and developing a mindset that fosters resilience, happiness, and overall well-being. This blog explores the concept of a positive focus, provides practical journaling assignments, and offers resources for further reading and support. The Importance of a Positive Focus In times where we hear and see 99% negative information, we have to be INTENTIONAL about seeing good and positive things! Intentional ...