Everything in balance

  Today many are struggling to STOP the inflow of social media! doom scrolling and non-stop video watching is a danger to your place of peace and safety! Photo by Vitaly Gariev on Unsplash Here are 8 things you can do to slow the process down! Pause the video(s) if you feel overwhelmed and/or shut off the source off Take deep breaths to calm yourself. Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel emotions. yes, even strong emotions kike, anger, fear, and disgust! Ask yourself, are these feelings ok and safe for me? Do I feel better experiencing them or would it be better not to? Use positive self-talk to manage reactions. Focus on the present moment and notice your surroundings, and think calm thoughts, favorite music, food, funny memory... Choose to do a different activity - read a real book, go for a walk, play with your pet, get a glass of water and sip it slowly. Now keep your mind on staying calm or relaxed and do activities that lead you away from the OVERHELMED world that is soc...

  Fear of failure can be a significant barrier in both personal and professional growth. It’s essential to reshape our thoughts and behaviors to move forward confidently. Here’s a structured approach based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) principles. Understanding Your Fear Challenge the Mindset Start by acknowledging the thought “If I do not succeed, I am a failure.” This is a cognitive distortion that equates your self-worth with your achievements. 1.           Identify Evidence : W rite down instances where you did not succeed.           W hat did you learn from them?  Were there aspects of your experiences that contributed to growth? 2.           Reframe :                 Transform the thought into a more balanced one.                 ...

  Understanding Your Mindset It’s essential to recognize that thoughts shape our feelings and behaviors. If you’re struggling with the thought “I am not good enough,” you’re likely experiencing low self-esteem. This mindset can create a cycle of negative self-talk and feelings, which can affect multiple areas of your life. Challenge Negative Beliefs 1.           Identify the Thought :            We have to learn to be much more self-aware . We carefully watch our words at work, church, school, and in other social settings—but we rarely pay attention to our own self-talk .                It’s true: we are often our own worst critics. The problem is that many of those self-critical                        thoughts aren’t truly ours . They come from trauma, repeated criticism, or being r...

  What is a Trauma event(s) A traumatic event is an incident that causes physical, emotional, spiritual, or psychological harm. It is an event that leave a person feeling threatened, frightened, or overwhelmed. Examples include accidents, natural disasters, violence, abuse, or witnessing a distressing event. It is triggers the human Fight or Flight which response to the maximum that often leaves a person stuck int fight, flight or freeze mode, this can trigger the trauma response system (TRS). What is a Trauma Response? Trauma responses refer to the psychological, emotional, and physical reactions individuals may experience after encountering a traumatic event. This is a human defense system! The trauma response system (TRS) allows humans to survive horrible event(s) including accidents, abuse, violence, loss, natural disasters and long term trauma exposure. Once your trauma response system is activated it can fail to stop protecting you long after the trauma event(s) are...

                                                                        Photo by Abyan Athif on Unsplash   Positive Focus: in a Negative World   Introduction In our fast-paced and often stressful lives, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by negativity and challenges. A positive focus involves shifting our attention to the positive aspects of our experiences and developing a mindset that fosters resilience, happiness, and overall well-being. This blog explores the concept of a positive focus, provides practical journaling assignments, and offers resources for further reading and support. The Importance of a Positive Focus In times where we hear and see 99% negative information, we have to be INTENTIONAL about seeing good and positive things! Intentional ...

Trauma is a powerful force that can leave deep emotional wounds in its wake. The journey to healing from trauma is often challenging and complex, but it is possible to find solace and move forward. In this blog post, we will explore the transformative power of forgiveness and how it can assist in the process of not just surviving but thriving after experiencing trauma.  Understanding Trauma Before exploring the healing process, it is essential to clearly understand what trauma involves. Trauma can present itself in various forms, including physical, emotional, or psychological abuse, accidents, natural disasters, or the loss of a loved one. Its effects can be enduring and profoundly impactful, influencing every aspect of a person's life. The Power of Forgiveness Forgiveness can be difficult to embrace, especially after traumatic experiences. However, it holds immense power in the healing journey. Forgiveness does not imply condoning or forgetting the actions that caused the trauma;...