Everything in balance

  How to Stop Negative Thoughts from Running Your Life Negative thoughts can be loud, convincing, and exhausting. They show up uninvited—first thing in the morning, in the middle of the night, or right when you’re trying to feel confident. And the worst part? We often believe them without question. These negative thoughts often stem from traumatic voices from your past. Your trauma response system used them to help you survive those experiences. The problem is that the system forgot to shut down!  But here’s the truth: a thought is not a fact . Just because your mind says something doesn’t mean it’s true, accurate, or helpful. Learning to stop negative thoughts isn’t about forcing positivity—it’s about regaining control . 1. Notice the Thought Without Judging It The first step is awareness.  Most negative thoughts run on autopilot and are triggered when you have to trust yourself. Start by simply noticing them: here are a few examples.  “I always mess things ...

 ⚖️ Are Judges Trained to Deal with Mental Illness? Spoiler: No they are NOT! And that’s a problem                                                   Photo by Tingey Injury Law Firm on Unsplash Decarlos Brown Jr., 34, who was arrested on Aug. 22 after he fatally stabbed 23-year-old Iryna Zarutska. (abc.com)  The suspect, 34-year-old Decarlos Brown  had been diagnosed with schizophrenia and suffered hallucinations and paranoia, his sister Tracey Brown said. She said her brother told her multiple times the government had implanted a chip in him. (cnn.com)  What is justice in this case? Death penalty? life in prison? Life in a Hospital for the criminally insane?  The history of this man is woven with chances to protect society and get him help but time and time again the system failed to do both or did it fail? Failure, in this case means you ...

Define yourself! I was introduced to a trainee doctor in my oncology office as – "This is our patient he has colon cancer."  I reached out my hand and said – Hi I am Paul… Doc looked up and then back down at his computer.  This was 10 years ago and it still bugs me! That is when I discovered I had lost my identity! I was now a cancer patient or someone fighting cancer… Who I was no longer mattered I was now just a disease label! That is when I said thought NO! I was going to get my identity back, but how? We live in a labeling world! By illness, by race, by gender, by profession, by location, by sports team, by car type and least we forget college of graduation!   We live wrapped in labels! I have conversations (not in therapy) with people and within minutes I hear things like I have depression or anxiety or allergies or nerve damage or blah blah blah…..     People just use their sickness/disability label to self-identify to e...