Everything in balance

  "Depression in men often looks different than what we expect. ? It might show up as: Anger or Irritability Instead of Sadness Many men have never been taught how to express sadness, grief, or fear. As a result, these feelings often emerge as anger or irritability. For some, it's the only emotion they feel permitted—or even safe—to show. What looks like frustration on the surface may actually be sorrow or anxiety trying to find a way out. Working Excessively For many men, work becomes a form of escape. The structure, clear expectations, and familiar routines offer a sense of control that emotional life often does not. Immersing themselves in their careers allows men to avoid confronting emotional confusion or vulnerability. Withdrawing from Friends and Family When faced with problems they can't solve or emotions they can't fix, many men instinctively retreat. The pressure to always have answers can be overwhelming, and in the absence of solutions, withdrawal may feel...

Define yourself! I was introduced to a trainee doctor in my oncology office as – "This is our patient he has colon cancer."  I reached out my hand and said – Hi I am Paul… Doc looked up and then back down at his computer.  This was 10 years ago and it still bugs me! That is when I discovered I had lost my identity! I was now a cancer patient or someone fighting cancer… Who I was no longer mattered I was now just a disease label! That is when I said thought NO! I was going to get my identity back, but how? We live in a labeling world! By illness, by race, by gender, by profession, by location, by sports team, by car type and least we forget college of graduation!   We live wrapped in labels! I have conversations (not in therapy) with people and within minutes I hear things like I have depression or anxiety or allergies or nerve damage or blah blah blah…..     People just use their sickness/disability label to self-identify to e...