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 ⚖️ Are Judges Trained to Deal with Mental Illness? Spoiler: No they are NOT! And that’s a problem                                                   Photo by Tingey Injury Law Firm on Unsplash Decarlos Brown Jr., 34, who was arrested on Aug. 22 after he fatally stabbed 23-year-old Iryna Zarutska. (abc.com)  The suspect, 34-year-old Decarlos Brown  had been diagnosed with schizophrenia and suffered hallucinations and paranoia, his sister Tracey Brown said. She said her brother told her multiple times the government had implanted a chip in him. (cnn.com)  What is justice in this case? Death penalty? life in prison? Life in a Hospital for the criminally insane?  The history of this man is woven with chances to protect society and get him help but time and time again the system failed to do both or did it fail? Failure, in this case means you ...

  I used to think as a therapist that getting people to the space of healing was a destination. That at some point, the person would have a moment, like walking up to a mountaintop, where the pain would vanish, and the view would be clear. That is a false hope! Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash The true way to see self-healing is as hard work. Healing is more like tending a garden in soil that's hard, uncared for, abandoned, and weed-filled. We bought a new house and found a lot of sand and stones where our garden needed to grow. I would have easily said, "No, we'll just buy from the farmer's market!" But, one must first decide to do the work, and that can be very intimidating. My wife said we could do it, and we DID! Watching that sand transform into a thin garden in year one, then a lush garden in year two and beyond, the connection hit me hard: this is what I've been doing with people for over 24 years. Therapy is much like tending this garden. Initially, ...

                                                                                Phot by RA ImageZ on Unsplash Real masculinity isn’t measured in how many wings you can down at a party. It is not how many trips to a buffet you can make. It is not that you can finish your partners meal even after eating yours!  Studies show some men overeat in social settings to appear more masculine or dominant—but their is a cost?  Social pressure, performance, and trained behaviors and expectations of manhood can lead to unhealthy habits which can lead to,  Obesity, Beer Belly, Low self esteem, sleep disturbance,  high blood pressure,  disordered eating,  diabetes,  ED and many other physical and mental health issues.    L...

  "Depression in men often looks different than what we expect. ? It might show up as: Anger or Irritability Instead of Sadness Many men have never been taught how to express sadness, grief, or fear. As a result, these feelings often emerge as anger or irritability. For some, it's the only emotion they feel permitted—or even safe—to show. What looks like frustration on the surface may actually be sorrow or anxiety trying to find a way out. Working Excessively For many men, work becomes a form of escape. The structure, clear expectations, and familiar routines offer a sense of control that emotional life often does not. Immersing themselves in their careers allows men to avoid confronting emotional confusion or vulnerability. Withdrawing from Friends and Family When faced with problems they can't solve or emotions they can't fix, many men instinctively retreat. The pressure to always have answers can be overwhelming, and in the absence of solutions, withdrawal may feel...

 In corporate environments, men often feel pressure to appear invulnerable.  However, the reality is: 1 in 8 men experience depression, and workplace stress is often a significant factor. As leaders and colleagues, we can:  ✓ Normalize mental health conversations and encourage seeking support. ✓ Offer flexible work arrangements so people can see therapist as they need too.   ✓ Lead by example in seeking help and share support.  ✓ Create psychologically safe environments for all people in the work space.  Taking care of our mental health isn't just personal—it's professional.  When we're mentally healthy, we're more creative, productive, and better leaders. Let's change the narrative around men's mental health in the workplace. #Leadership #MentalHealthAtWork #WorkplaceWellness #MensMentalHealth" I offer therapy and professional mental health training contact me at my website at  Lifeline Connections Therapy