Everything in balance

  Fear of failure can be a significant barrier in both personal and professional growth. It’s essential to reshape our thoughts and behaviors to move forward confidently. Here’s a structured approach based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) principles. Understanding Your Fear Challenge the Mindset Start by acknowledging the thought “If I do not succeed, I am a failure.” This is a cognitive distortion that equates your self-worth with your achievements. 1.           Identify Evidence : W rite down instances where you did not succeed.           W hat did you learn from them?  Were there aspects of your experiences that contributed to growth? 2.           Reframe :                 Transform the thought into a more balanced one.                 ...

  How to Stop Negative Thoughts from Running Your Life Negative thoughts can be loud, convincing, and exhausting. They show up uninvited—first thing in the morning, in the middle of the night, or right when you’re trying to feel confident. And the worst part? We often believe them without question. These negative thoughts often stem from traumatic voices from your past. Your trauma response system used them to help you survive those experiences. The problem is that the system forgot to shut down!  But here’s the truth: a thought is not a fact . Just because your mind says something doesn’t mean it’s true, accurate, or helpful. Learning to stop negative thoughts isn’t about forcing positivity—it’s about regaining control . 1. Notice the Thought Without Judging It The first step is awareness.  Most negative thoughts run on autopilot and are triggered when you have to trust yourself. Start by simply noticing them: here are a few examples.  “I always mess things ...

  Understanding Your Mindset It’s essential to recognize that thoughts shape our feelings and behaviors. If you’re struggling with the thought “I am not good enough,” you’re likely experiencing low self-esteem. This mindset can create a cycle of negative self-talk and feelings, which can affect multiple areas of your life. Challenge Negative Beliefs 1.           Identify the Thought :            We have to learn to be much more self-aware . We carefully watch our words at work, church, school, and in other social settings—but we rarely pay attention to our own self-talk .                It’s true: we are often our own worst critics. The problem is that many of those self-critical                        thoughts aren’t truly ours . They come from trauma, repeated criticism, or being r...