Everything in balance

Trauma is a powerful force that can leave deep emotional wounds in its wake. The journey to healing from trauma is often challenging and complex, but it is possible to find solace and move forward. In this blog post, we will explore the transformative power of forgiveness and how it can assist in the process of not just surviving but thriving after experiencing trauma.  Understanding Trauma Before exploring the healing process, it is essential to clearly understand what trauma involves. Trauma can present itself in various forms, including physical, emotional, or psychological abuse, accidents, natural disasters, or the loss of a loved one. Its effects can be enduring and profoundly impactful, influencing every aspect of a person's life. The Power of Forgiveness Forgiveness can be difficult to embrace, especially after traumatic experiences. However, it holds immense power in the healing journey. Forgiveness does not imply condoning or forgetting the actions that caused the trauma;...

 Building positive relationships is an essential aspect of our lives. Whether it's with family, friends, or even colleagues, these connections contribute to our overall well-being and happiness. In this blog post, we will explore the key elements that foster positive relationships, emphasizing effective communication, creating a safe environment, and providing support to one another.  The Power of Communication Effective communication acts as the foundation for cultivating positive relationships. It involves active listening, expressing oneself clearly, and showing empathy towards others. By engaging in open and honest conversations, we foster understanding, resolve conflicts, and strengthen the bond between individuals. Creating a Safe Space Safety plays a crucial role in maintaining positive relationships. This includes both physical and emotional safety. By creating an environment where individuals feel secure, respected, and valued, we encourage trust to flourish. When peo...

Trauma can cast a long shadow over our lives, leaving us feeling shattered and lost. However, within the depths of despair, there is always a glimmer of hope. This blog post explores the path to recovery from trauma, offering insights and guidance on how to rebuild a life filled with healing, resilience, and newfound strength. Understanding Trauma Trauma comes in various forms, whether it's the result of a severe accident, a natural disaster, or emotional abuse. It leaves lasting imprints on our minds and bodies, disrupting our sense of safety and well-being. Acknowledging and understanding the nature of trauma is the first step towards healing. Embracing the Journey Recovering from trauma is a process that requires patience and self-compassion. It's essential to allow ourselves the space to grieve, to feel the pain, and to acknowledge our emotions. By embracing the journey, we open ourselves up to the possibility of transformation and growth. Seeking Support No one should have...

Photo by  LOGAN WEAVER | @LGNWVR  on  Unsplash WAIT WAIT DO DON’T ANSWER – so fast! Is that your final answer? Are you locked in? You have 20 secs to answer 10 questions! I bet most of you can tell me what shows these are from. If not, you have Jeopardy, Who Wants to be a Millionaire, and Family Feud. These game shows have been on pretty much my whole life, and I am over 50. In fact, Jeopardy has been on longer than I have been alive, starting in 1964 (8 years. before me). There are at any one time over 1000 game shows of one type or another on TV, online, or Radio according to museumofplay.org. I remember watching reruns of game shows from the 40s with my dad and listening to game show recordings from the 20’s radio with my grandma.   We want fast food in under 5 minutes, we want fast drinks, fast internet 4g, 5g, 10G!!!, fast, FASTER, now, now, NOW! YOLO (you only live once)!   We live in an instant mindset world with our mobile entertainment dev...

Define yourself! I was introduced to a trainee doctor in my oncology office as – "This is our patient he has colon cancer."  I reached out my hand and said – Hi I am Paul… Doc looked up and then back down at his computer.  This was 10 years ago and it still bugs me! That is when I discovered I had lost my identity! I was now a cancer patient or someone fighting cancer… Who I was no longer mattered I was now just a disease label! That is when I said thought NO! I was going to get my identity back, but how? We live in a labeling world! By illness, by race, by gender, by profession, by location, by sports team, by car type and least we forget college of graduation!   We live wrapped in labels! I have conversations (not in therapy) with people and within minutes I hear things like I have depression or anxiety or allergies or nerve damage or blah blah blah…..     People just use their sickness/disability label to self-identify to e...

Meditations on ~ Hebrews 4:13-15 (New International Version) Nothing in all creation is hidden from God's sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account. ~ I love this and at the same time this kind of freaks me out. I mean how many times I have done things that I now that no human knows but it still was not privet. I love the fact that God also see the evil and the injustice that occurs in life. It is comforting to know that God can see those times that the world fails to be fair. I also like the idea that when you do those things that is good and right even in the face of other choices. The last line is one that we need to keep in mind --- we will answer for our lives LIKE IT or NOT… we have a responsibility to live our life well!! Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. ~ I at times like to think that Jesus is more than a fr...

An article in technology section in my local paper about the new ATM’s have me thinking about the way we humans are striving to replace ourselves. What is the reason we want to replace people like bank tellers and cashiers? Now do not get me wrong I am love technology. I mean I am writing this on my laptop that is connected to my wireless network that I have three other computer systems hooked up to. I have full digital cable and if I had the money I would have a wall mount plasma HDTV. I love technology but I want technology I control. I went to the famous W-mart store the other day and there are eight self serve lines and they had people waiting to use them, while there were two cashiers with no one in line. I went to the cashier and asked if this happened often? She replied “not often but it does happen.” I could not help think about replacing six cashiers with computers. It only takes one person to run four self serve stations. That would work out to a lot of profit for a store, no...